Wives Program

Wives of sexual addicts are the most misunderstood group in our churches today. They are often overlooked, misunderstood, and mislabeled.

They often feel “invisible” when the husband’s addiction is revealed and the primary focus becomes getting him on the right path. The belief is that if the sexual addiction is arrested or eradicated then the marriage will be saved. This leaves the wife in a place where her pain is ignored and her recovery is still dependent upon her husband getting well.

She is often misunderstood when she appears to be doing well. Many wives have learned to develop a facade of being “all together” to cover up their fears and pain. They are misunderstood when they try to express their emotions of pain and anger. They may have bottled up these emotions for years and when it does come out, it is messy. We don’t like messy situations in the church so we want a quick fix to clean it up. Her need to grieve is often minimized or dismissed outright. Her deep despair is seen as an event and not a process or journey.

The wife of the addict is often mislabeled as a co-dependent or enabler. These labels imply that the wife had knowledge of his addiction and encouraged, reinforced and enabled his addictive patterns. In many cases the sex addict is able to cover his addiction for many years without anyone having a clue about his secret sin.

One of the wife’s greatest fears is that she will be blamed for his addiction. Some of this fear was reinforced by the addict through his deflecting his issues and blaming those around him. This fear is also reinforced through media, family, friends, and the church. The subtle message is “if you give him what he wants, then he won’t go looking for it somewhere else.” When the wife is overlooked, misunderstood, and mislabeled; she suffers in silence with no process or avenue for healing. When she is not heard, the sun sets upon her anger and pain and Satan gets a foothold. As more suns set, she becomes disconnected, bitter and indifferent.

Restoration Path offers a unique workshop for the wives’ of sexual addicts. We understand that many wives are unable to attend workshops, conferences or even personal counseling because of financial, employment and family concerns. The wives’ workshop is a 6 week video workshop that comes to you.

What is included:

  • 15 Video Teachings – these are specifically designed to discuss the needs of the wife.
  • Customized Workbook
  • 6 Counseling Sessions – Skype, Telephone or Face-to-Face
  • The Booklet – Ten Truths Wives Need to Know, written by David Jones

COST: $500

Our God is the God of Hope. He is still the God of Restoration. Wives of sexual addicts no longer need to suffer in silence. God so cared about your pain that He sent His only Son, to become fully acquainted with it and then to bare it. There is hope and your broken heart can be fully restored. Is today the day you start that journey?

For more information about this program and/or how to sign up, please contact us at (877) 320-5217 or email us at admin@restorationpath.org.

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About Restoration Path

Restoration Path is a Christian discipleship ministry that exists to restore those trapped in sexual and relational sin through the power of Jesus Christ. Through our online workshop, individual biblical counseling, support groups, custom Intensive programs, we seek to empower men and women to embrace their identity in Christ. Our passion is to encourage people to posture themselves to receive God’s healing in their deep areas of emotional wounding, learn to meet their relational needs in healthy ways, and make good choices that harmonize with their deeply felt moral convictions. We encourage you to browse our list of programs and contact us with any questions. Click here to read more ...

One Response to “Wives Program”

  1. Charlo May 17, 2012 1:31 am #

    Thanks for an enlightening post.

    My husband was in the sex industry for many years before we got married. I had been celibate for 5 years. He still talks about that life with a fondness and I will not compete with that.
    I do not like relations with him. I feel so much shame and guilt and just avoid it whenever possible. We have had some pretty awful confrontations about it. He has said that “if I gave him what he wants, he would be content.”

    I felt dirty and ashamed and could not shake that terrible feeling. We have been married 20 years this year. We have a teen aged son. We are both in ministry but are not pastors. I have been seeking soul restoration from many deep and painful issues. He hasn’t done that kind of deep work, since we got delivered from Cocaine 23 years ago.
    God has done a great work in us. I do love him and want a better intimate relationship with him that isn’t always sexual. I was very promiscuous in my youth. I did not go into the sex industry. I was/am in Entertainment for over 40 years. I love what I do, and work hard at it. God has blessed me with gifts and talents. Being before a live Audience is very fulfilling for me on so many levels. It is very satisfying. I had dated actors and musicians and writers before and it was so different because we had a creative connection. This intimidates my husband now, as he has expressed jealousy at my closeness to other men within my industry.
    We need help. Can you help us? I have been praying about these things and feel that this ministry can be an added bonus to the journey I am on right now.
    Please feel free to contact me with more information. I need an assesment of my situation.

    Blessings,

    Dr.Charlo Crossley Fortier
    Los Angeles, CA

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