The Secret Room


The Secret Room

Proverbs 9:17-18 (NKJV) “Stolen water is sweet, and bread eaten in secret is pleasant.” But he does not know that the dead are there, that her guests are in the depths of hell.

Imagine there was a secret room in which you could enter and no one, including God, could see, hear or know what you did within its walls. Behind the covering of these walls existed your favorite sin. You could indulge in this sin with no fear of consequence during your time there as well as once you left. You would be allowed to enter this room each day for 30 minutes free from any admission charges. Would you choose to enter this room? If you said no then you probably don’t grasp an understanding of the potential evil in your heart or you realize the room is actually a delusional trap. We seem to hear each day about a man in the seat of power and influence being accused of inappropriate sexual misconduct. Some of these men have acknowledged their guilt while others proclaim innocence. These men are all paying a great cost of which most of us cannot fathom. Because of their great wealth, influence and power, we find it hard to relate. These men had the ability to figuratively or literally create the aforementioned secret room. They had little fear of consequence regarding their secret behavior and presented an outward appearance as being good, productive and law abiding citizens. Now that their secret sins have become public, us regular never-going-to-be-a-millionaire folks can stand in judgement over these corrupt power mongers.

Maybe our secret rooms aren’t as well protected and elaborate as these celebrities but never the less we all have one. When you perceive no one is looking, what do you do with your eyes, mind, mouth and behavior? When no one is looking do you take that second look at that attractive person and lust in your heart and mind? When no one is listening, is your mouth used to curse the slow moving elderly driver in front of you? When you are away from the church activities, is your mouth used to spread the latest juicy gossip? We often view and measure one’s integrity based upon how they behave when no one is looking. In actuality, it should be measured by how we behave when only God is watching. Satan wants us to believe we can hide from God. That concept works about as well as our original grandparents’ attempt at hiding behind fig leaves. We may not have the power and money of celebrities but we never the less find ways to protect our own secret rooms. We protect them through comparison, rationalization, minimization and justification. No matter what our station in life may be, the secret room, which promised such great reward, eventually traps all who repeatedly enter. The 30 minutes you first spent in the secret room of pornography eventually becomes 6 hours. No matter what your favorite sin may be, it cannot be managed in a compartmentalized delusional world. The lock on the door of the secret room was intended to keep reality at bay. Eventually we realize the door is locked on both sides and we are trapped in a repeated cycle of sin. There is but one key to this door and His name is Jesus. He came to set the captive free from the bondage of a world of our creation. The world of the secret room. No matter where you might be today regarding your walk with the Lord, ask Him to search you out. Examine yourself and ask him to expose your secret sins. If you are trapped in the cycle of sin within the walls of the secret room then know He is the key of Hope. You don’t have to lose everything. You can acknowledge that your secret has cost enough and you are willing to do whatever it takes to be healed.

David Jones, Executive Director Restoration Path Ministries


About David Jones

David Jones is the Executive Director for Restoration Path Ministries. David is a Memphis TN area native and lives with his wife of over 32 years and has two adult children. He is a long-standing deacon, ordained elder and Sunday school teacher. David has a Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of Memphis. Restoration Path is founded on David’s experiences and teachings. David has over 35 years of counseling, mental health, and ministry experience. In 1998, he began providing intensive workshops for Christian men struggling with sexual addiction. His work has also included workshops for the wives and families of sexual addicts. He has also facilitated numerous training institutes. The teachings that are presented through the ministry workshops and intensives are the result of proven and biblically based techniques. He is also the author of 4 other books Goldfish Devotionals, The Blessing of the Thorn, 10 Truths Wives Need to Know, and The Top 10 Lies Sex Addicts Tell Themselves. He is the author and creator of the 4 and 3-day Restoration Path intensive sexual addiction workshops and workbooks. He is the designer, author, and creator of the Restoration Path video workshops and workbooks for male sexual addicts as well as the video workshop for the wives of addicts. All of David’s books and material can be ordered from the ministry website.

One Response to “The Secret Room”

  1. Ronald E Hale December 1, 2017 11:22 pm #

    This road of sexual immorality has taken this country to a place where it is now anything goes and almost nobody says a word until it is too late. There is today a very vocal culture that says any relationship that feels good for the moment is OK. It doesn’t matter about the length of the relationship, commitment or not, any gender to gender, any age and any orifice. The public appearance of the media and people themselves has become a strip tease show at any hour of the day. Men and women are literally being enflamed with sexual passions as part of a daily routine and someone gets upset when the onlooker acts out. Hear me please, everybody should be responsible for their actions and no amount of tease should excuse sexual abuse. BUT, those who stir up these human passions I liken to a group of party goers who burn down their own barn but don’t want to be responsible when their neighbors house catches on fire. You cannot have a do as you please, if it feels good do it, attitude and expect to survive. Children are being told to “choose” their sex when every cell in their body will be the gender of their birth until they die. Men are being told they can be the “wife” if they feel like it or they can use the girls bathroom whenever. A mom has been told she can kill the preborn if she doesn’t want to deliver this child. This nation has come to the place where everything that should be sacred and good for everyone has been marginalized and the do it if it feels good attitude now rules the streets and the courts.

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