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Wedding Feast Gone Bad

A paradox is a statement, proposition, or situation that seems to be absurd or contradictory, but in fact is or may be true. The heading of the article above contains some paradoxical phrases. “Wedding brawl in the city of brotherly love” appears a tad bit absurd or contradictory. The wedding feast is one where love, commitment and dedication are the primary themes and not tasers, batons, chaos and violence. It was not clear what started this brawl but it was apparent that the over usage of alcohol was a primary and contributing factor.

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You Are Not Alone

Andy and Tammy Reid faced the greatest terror that a parent could ever experience. All parents, from the moment the child is conceived, want to protect their children from all harm, injury, and most importantly death. We want to protect them from external and internal forces that could harm them. The Reid family battled with both of these forces regarding their son’s drug addiction. The external temptation of drug usage as a means of coping with and escaping the difficulties of life can be tremendous. The internal lies we tell ourselves keep us walled off from the people close to us and lead us into isolation, despair and self destruction. When the external temptations line up with our internal lies then the ending result can be deadly. Andy and Tammy Reid loved their son and battled with all their strength to save him.

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Tanning Mom, Part 2

Patricia Krentcil was dramatically introduced to the world back in May through the images of her very darken skin that she obtained through extensive use of a tanning booth. For the past month she has reframed from tanning and her images are stunningly different. You could say she looks 100% different. In May the concern was that she had done severe damage to her skin and that there might be dire consequences in the future. You might look at her external appearance now and say, “Wow, the human body really has a way of repairing itself and recovering from repeated abuse.” Through her changed appearance you might come to the conclusion that she has changed her behavior and her obsession with tanning. The truth is the damage to her skin may be deeper than external appearances reveal and her attitude regarding tanning may not have changed at all. Just as her extremely tanned skin did not reveal her heart or inner self, neither does her fairer skin. The same is true with sin. The external appearance or behavior of an individual does not always reveal the real heart of the person.

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The LeBron Lesson

In sports, you are taught to have a short term memory regarding your mistakes and failures. If you keep looking back at those mistakes then you can’t see the challenges in front of you. The same is true regarding our sin. When we keep looking back at our failures and sins then we stop moving forward and begin to live in regret. Paul commanded the church at Philippi to press forward. …

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Excerpts from: 10 Truths Wives Need to Know

The wife of a sexual addict is often the most misunderstood victim that exists in the church today. Her world is filled with a sense of absolute betrayal. She feels betrayed by the man she committed her life to and often feels betrayed by God. Her world is one of varied emotions. They range from total despair to rage in a matter of moments. Her world is often consumed by guilt, shame and embarrassment. She often blames herself for not seeing “the warning signs” of her husband’s secret sin. Most often she feels alone in her struggle and afraid to share her plight because of how others may respond or how it will affect her children and the family’s reputation in the church.

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"One element that I have encouraged pastors with is to stand with the congregants to walk in purity." Tommy Corman

Freedom Is Not Free … Galatians 5:13

Freedom is not free is a bumper sticker that commanded much attention after 9-11. This was a statement that many people understood as we were at war. And whether you agreed with the war or not the statement makes since. Freedom is not free not even for our salvation. Somebody had to die for our sin and that was Jesus. We can accept that gift gracefully but now what? How are we supposed to live as Christians in a culture that is sexually promiscuous? How are we to make decisions when we don’t know exactly what truth means? Part of this struggle as a Christ follower is to identify how we are to let go of past behavior if we are going to let God minister to our hearts. God, as a gentleman, doesn’t always break down all our defenses to get us to see something we should change. Many times it’s the still small voice that nudges us in our consciences that what we are doing is wrong. It’s our choices, the free will we have, that needs to be exercised here for His purposes.

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Meek Is Not The Same As Weak

Meek is not the same as weak. Kevin Durant is a not a weak or timid basketball player. He is confident and courageous in his duties on the court. He does, however, know who he is and where his real worth and identity come from. He is a solid devoted Christian believer that knows that all gifts and praises go to his Maker and Creator. From that knowledge and foundation he walks out his life with meekness and humility. We need more courageous men to step up to the plate and walk out the (that) Godly role model. You don’t have to be a sports hero to be a role model. You don’t even have to be perfect. You may be in a place of realizing you have failed regarding your sexual sin. You can still be that humble role model. You can model to those around you what true restoration looks like. We really don’t get to choose whether we are a role model or not. We do get to choose whether we are a Godly one or a worldly one. Choose.

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Defining Fatherhood

The term father is defined: ‘To be the creator, founder, or author of; originate.’ (dictionary. reference.com/browser/father).

Many people struggle with sexual sin because of an absent or abusive father. Therefore, it would only make good sense that a remedy, not an instant cure, for that pain is to call on your true Father.

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A New Jersey Woman Tanning

Our sinful nature tells us that it is all about me and serving my own self interest. This nature promotes our desire to be god without any boundaries or limits upon my behavior. This approach feeds the attitude of “Hey, it’s my body; I can do with it what I want.” In turn the world system consistently feeds us the message that it is more important how we appear on the outside rather than how we are doing on the inside. This culture and mindset encourages and reinforces an “image management” system.

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Stealing Seeds

My wife, Diana, was reading her Bible in our backyard and she shared with me what she remembers from a mentor we both shared in our lives at one time, “Satan can’t snatch you of God’s hand. But he can steal your seed if you let him.”

The very best place to receive seeds, be planted in one’s heart, is from the Scriptures themselves. The enemy is always there to try to steal away the blessing of our seed. Jesus spoke a parable to a large crowd and later explained it to the apostles. His explanation is in Luke 8:11-15:

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