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Meek Is Not The Same As Weak

Meek is not the same as weak. Kevin Durant is a not a weak or timid basketball player. He is confident and courageous in his duties on the court. He does, however, know who he is and where his real worth and identity come from. He is a solid devoted Christian believer that knows that all gifts and praises go to his Maker and Creator. From that knowledge and foundation he walks out his life with meekness and humility. We need more courageous men to step up to the plate and walk out the (that) Godly role model. You don’t have to be a sports hero to be a role model. You don’t even have to be perfect. You may be in a place of realizing you have failed regarding your sexual sin. You can still be that humble role model. You can model to those around you what true restoration looks like. We really don’t get to choose whether we are a role model or not. We do get to choose whether we are a Godly one or a worldly one. Choose.

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Defining Fatherhood

The term father is defined: ‘To be the creator, founder, or author of; originate.’ (dictionary. reference.com/browser/father).

Many people struggle with sexual sin because of an absent or abusive father. Therefore, it would only make good sense that a remedy, not an instant cure, for that pain is to call on your true Father.

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Relapse Prevention

This is a sample of a phone conversation I have had several times throughout the years.

“Hello, my name is Mary Smith and my husband is Joe Smith. I don’t know if you remember my husband but you did an intensive with him about a year ago.”

“Sure, I remember him. How is he doing?”

“Well, he was doing great after he came back from visiting with you but over time he has just gone back to being his old self.”

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Grief and Shame as Motivation to Overcome

I remember a colleague of mine at a treatment center I worked at years ago commonly made the comment that we don’t see enough people blushing or weeping over their sin. Weeping is a direct representation of repentance because of one’s sinful nature and the need for God to fill one’s heart. We should allow ourselves to feel the pain of what our sin has done. That is part of the grieving process as well. We should be able to grieve over the consequences of what sin has done. If all you do is smile after you realize what sin has done you haven’t been truly honest. This weeping is part of the shame process from original sin.

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A New Jersey Woman Tanning

Our sinful nature tells us that it is all about me and serving my own self interest. This nature promotes our desire to be god without any boundaries or limits upon my behavior. This approach feeds the attitude of “Hey, it’s my body; I can do with it what I want.” In turn the world system consistently feeds us the message that it is more important how we appear on the outside rather than how we are doing on the inside. This culture and mindset encourages and reinforces an “image management” system.

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Stealing Seeds

My wife, Diana, was reading her Bible in our backyard and she shared with me what she remembers from a mentor we both shared in our lives at one time, “Satan can’t snatch you of God’s hand. But he can steal your seed if you let him.”

The very best place to receive seeds, be planted in one’s heart, is from the Scriptures themselves. The enemy is always there to try to steal away the blessing of our seed. Jesus spoke a parable to a large crowd and later explained it to the apostles. His explanation is in Luke 8:11-15:

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Wives Program

Wives of sexual addicts are the most misunderstood group in our churches today. They are often overlooked, misunderstood, and mislabeled.

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February Newsletter – Priest, Provider, Protector

The Priest is the leader of his home. He will pray over his wife and children and find opportunities to teach God’s goodness to them. The Provider addresses the financial, emotional and relational needs a family has. A financial provider is quickly misunderstood because of how our culture has the needs and wants intertwined. The Protector is the one that looks out for the family’s best interest for the physical, relational and emotional state and direction of the family. An example of this is a father setting the tone for godly morals in the home.

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