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Introduction Letter from David Jones – September 2012 Newsletter

As the new Director for Restoration Path, I wanted to take a few moments of your time to introduce myself. I would love to have an opportunity to talk with each and every one of you and would be glad to answer any questions you have about me.

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Tim Tebow Values Accountability, We Do Too

Tim Tebow is one of the most talked about sports figures on our planet today. You cannot watch an episode of Sports Center without his name being mentioned. Sometimes there is debate about his performance as an NFL quarter back. There is one thing that has never been questioned nor debated and that is his faith and integrity. He is always described as a man of strong faith and character. You would think that someone of his strength and stature could take on all the trials and temptations that life can throw at him without relying upon another human.

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Tanning Mom, Part 2

Patricia Krentcil was dramatically introduced to the world back in May through the images of her very darken skin that she obtained through extensive use of a tanning booth. For the past month she has reframed from tanning and her images are stunningly different. You could say she looks 100% different. In May the concern was that she had done severe damage to her skin and that there might be dire consequences in the future. You might look at her external appearance now and say, “Wow, the human body really has a way of repairing itself and recovering from repeated abuse.” Through her changed appearance you might come to the conclusion that she has changed her behavior and her obsession with tanning. The truth is the damage to her skin may be deeper than external appearances reveal and her attitude regarding tanning may not have changed at all. Just as her extremely tanned skin did not reveal her heart or inner self, neither does her fairer skin. The same is true with sin. The external appearance or behavior of an individual does not always reveal the real heart of the person.

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The LeBron Lesson

In sports, you are taught to have a short term memory regarding your mistakes and failures. If you keep looking back at those mistakes then you can’t see the challenges in front of you. The same is true regarding our sin. When we keep looking back at our failures and sins then we stop moving forward and begin to live in regret. Paul commanded the church at Philippi to press forward. …

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Excerpts from: 10 Truths Wives Need to Know

The wife of a sexual addict is often the most misunderstood victim that exists in the church today. Her world is filled with a sense of absolute betrayal. She feels betrayed by the man she committed her life to and often feels betrayed by God. Her world is one of varied emotions. They range from total despair to rage in a matter of moments. Her world is often consumed by guilt, shame and embarrassment. She often blames herself for not seeing “the warning signs” of her husband’s secret sin. Most often she feels alone in her struggle and afraid to share her plight because of how others may respond or how it will affect her children and the family’s reputation in the church.

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"One element that I have encouraged pastors with is to stand with the congregants to walk in purity." Tommy Corman

Freedom Is Not Free … Galatians 5:13

Freedom is not free is a bumper sticker that commanded much attention after 9-11. This was a statement that many people understood as we were at war. And whether you agreed with the war or not the statement makes since. Freedom is not free not even for our salvation. Somebody had to die for our sin and that was Jesus. We can accept that gift gracefully but now what? How are we supposed to live as Christians in a culture that is sexually promiscuous? How are we to make decisions when we don’t know exactly what truth means? Part of this struggle as a Christ follower is to identify how we are to let go of past behavior if we are going to let God minister to our hearts. God, as a gentleman, doesn’t always break down all our defenses to get us to see something we should change. Many times it’s the still small voice that nudges us in our consciences that what we are doing is wrong. It’s our choices, the free will we have, that needs to be exercised here for His purposes.

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Excerpts from: Top Ten Lies Sex Addicts Tell Themselves

Everyone’s relationship with their sexual sin is unique and different. In the case of the sex addict he will develop unique lies and distortions that will protect this secret relationship. This protection occurs because of 2 primary reasons. He likes his sexual sin and he lacks the ability to deal with the reality of his sin. He likes his sexual sin because it feels good and it meets some core needs. When a sexual addict sees an attractive person and that person smiles at him, his first thought is “that person wants to have sex with me.” With this thought and look, the addict’s brain releases chemicals that make him feel good. Each time he takes that intoxicating look, his relationship with his sexual sin is reinforced. Something that feels this good must be protected. At the same time, the addict is subtly addressing the core need of being wanted. Most sexual addicts carry around core need deficiencies. The longer he carries these deficiencies, the more desperate he will become to fill this void. In a lot of cases the addict is not aware of these voids because he never had them met to begin with. Let’s go back to the original thought. “That attractive person wants to have sex with me.” Each time the addict takes in this message he is attempting to fill the need of being wanted. Originally, this need was non-sexual but became sexualized through the constant input of sexual thoughts and images. Because these thoughts address some very important needs, he must protect his sexual sin.

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Stealing Seeds

My wife, Diana, was reading her Bible in our backyard and she shared with me what she remembers from a mentor we both shared in our lives at one time, “Satan can’t snatch you of God’s hand. But he can steal your seed if you let him.”

The very best place to receive seeds, be planted in one’s heart, is from the Scriptures themselves. The enemy is always there to try to steal away the blessing of our seed. Jesus spoke a parable to a large crowd and later explained it to the apostles. His explanation is in Luke 8:11-15:

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Wives Program

Wives of sexual addicts are the most misunderstood group in our churches today. They are often overlooked, misunderstood, and mislabeled.

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