As the new Director for Restoration Path, I wanted to take a few moments of your time to introduce myself. I would love to have an opportunity to talk with each and every one of you and would be glad to answer any questions you have about me.
Patricia Krentcil was dramatically introduced to the world back in May through the images of her very darken skin that she obtained through extensive use of a tanning booth. For the past month she has reframed from tanning and her images are stunningly different. You could say she looks 100% different. In May the concern was that she had done severe damage to her skin and that there might be dire consequences in the future. You might look at her external appearance now and say, “Wow, the human body really has a way of repairing itself and recovering from repeated abuse.” Through her changed appearance you might come to the conclusion that she has changed her behavior and her obsession with tanning. The truth is the damage to her skin may be deeper than external appearances reveal and her attitude regarding tanning may not have changed at all. Just as her extremely tanned skin did not reveal her heart or inner self, neither does her fairer skin. The same is true with sin. The external appearance or behavior of an individual does not always reveal the real heart of the person.
The wife of a sexual addict is often the most misunderstood victim that exists in the church today. Her world is filled with a sense of absolute betrayal. She feels betrayed by the man she committed her life to and often feels betrayed by God. Her world is one of varied emotions. They range from total despair to rage in a matter of moments. Her world is often consumed by guilt, shame and embarrassment. She often blames herself for not seeing “the warning signs” of her husband’s secret sin. Most often she feels alone in her struggle and afraid to share her plight because of how others may respond or how it will affect her children and the family’s reputation in the church.
This is a sample of a phone conversation I have had several times throughout the years.
“Hello, my name is Mary Smith and my husband is Joe Smith. I don’t know if you remember my husband but you did an intensive with him about a year ago.”
“Sure, I remember him. How is he doing?”
“Well, he was doing great after he came back from visiting with you but over time he has just gone back to being his old self.”