Helpful Recovery Tips from Sexual Addiction Tip #5: Seeking help

Finding freedom in Jesus Christ from sexual and relational sin

Helpful Recovery Tips from Sexual Addiction
Tip #5: Seeking help
Having a sexual addiction indicates you have repeatedly fallen into sexual sin with repeated failures to stop this pattern through your own efforts. This pattern indicates your sexual sin is a deeply rooted stronghold. If you fall off a ladder repeatedly then you would be injured and require a time of healing as well as instruction to keep from re-injuring yourself. The same is true for the recovery from sexual sin. You have injured yourself spiritually, emotionally, mentally, physically and relationally. You need someone to direct your healing journey and that will not be you. You cannot direct your healing because your sexual addiction has distorted your mental processing and it needs time to heal. Finding a counselor or pastor to direct this process can take some time but the effort is worth it. Ask your pastor or local church leaders who they utilize and refer to for counseling issues. When looking for a counselor you want someone that has experience in dealing with Christians who struggle with sexual addictions. There are numerous differences in how this particular addiction effects Christians and you need someone who understands those differences. I often encourage people to look for someone who are a Christian first and a counselor/therapist second. How do they integrate scripture and prayer into their counseling practices? Will they be developing a specific recovery or battle plan that fits your individual needs and support system? One of the most important factors is for your counselor to be a person who speaks both truth and grace. They will be speaking truth into your life and the reality and cost of your sexual sin. This process will be painful and difficult and you may not like them during this time. You do not have to like your counselor but you will need to trust them. They will also be pointing you toward the sufficiency of God’s Grace to cover the entire ugliness of your sins. A non-Christian counselor cannot provide this for you. If you are married, do not seek marriage counseling in the early stages of healing. You and your spouse need individual healing and restoration with God before trying to heal your marriage. Sexual addiction creates a breakdown in our intimacy with God. If we are not having intimacy with God then we cannot have it with someone else. At the heart of sexual addiction it has nothing to do with sex. At its heart sexual addiction is an intimacy disorder. Finding a counselor who understands this concept will be an important step in the selection process.
If you or someone you know needs help regarding recovery from sexual sin, give us a call at 877-320-5217 or visit or website at

David Jones, MS
Executive Director

Restoration Path Ministries
PO Box 343418 Bartlett TN 38184-3418
(877) 320-5217


About David Jones

David is a Memphis native and lives with his wife of 25 years and two children. David has a Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of Memphis. He has worked in mental health for over 30 years with adolescents and adults in inpatient, outpatient, and residential settings. For the past 15 years David’s primary focus has been working with men and their spouses in intensive sexual addiction workshops.

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