by David Jones, Executive Director of Restoration Path Ministries
USC Senior corner back Josh Shaw lied. Shaw went from being hailed as a hero by his coach and in every news media to being labeled an inept liar. Earlier in the week he reported to his coach he had injured both ankles while jumping from a second story balcony to rescue his drowning 7-year-old nephew. Telephone calls and emails beginning pouring into the USC offices refuting Josh Shaw’s story of heroics. After a brief delay, Shaw provided a written acknowledgement of haven fabricated the whole incident. Many radio sports talk show hosts and ESPN analysts have tried to understand why such a gifted athlete would tell such a lie. As of this writing Josh Shaw has not provided his own answer to this quandary but the basic answer is “we all lie.”
There are various motivations as to why we lie but the bottom line is we all lie and we don’t have to be trained in how to do it. Little 3 year-old Johnny breaks a lamp. He is asked by his mother, “Did you do this?” Little Johnny has not gone to the school of “Let me teach you how to lie university.” He can’t even spell the word lie but what does he naturally do? He lies. He looks straight at his loving mother who spent 9 months carrying him in her womb and then 72 hours of agonizing labor and says, “No.” But he doesn’t stop with one lie. “Then who did this?” With tears forming in his manipulative blue eyes he replies, “I don’t know.” He then tops off his performance with running to his mother and rapping his arms around her legs and through his tears he says, “I love you Momma.” If you think this is an exaggeration then you have never been around a 3 year-old for more than 1 day. How did little Johnny learn how to lie? It is his nature to lie. It is a gift from his original Father Adam. We are all stained with a sinful nature and have the tendency to go with our natural bent. The Bible is full of good people who resorted to lies when the pressure got too intense. Political, business and religious leaders have all been know to lie in order to cover their behinds or keep their positions of esteem and power.
There is an old adage that asks the question “How can you tell if an addict is lying? If his lips are moving.” Sexual addicts will lie to protect their sexual sin, keep reality away from it and avoid dealing with the shame of their moral failures. The port of entry and path to any healing process for sexual addiction comes through the vehicle of honesty and truth. Bringing the light of honesty into the dark world of sexual sin can be difficult and painful. The addict needs support and accountability to stay on the path of honesty and truth. Dishonesty feeds our sinful nature and honesty exposes it and His Truth and demolishes it. I hope Josh Shaw has some good people around him that will help him through the difficult journey of being honest. All we have to do is look into ourselves to understand why he lied. It just came natural.
If you or a loved one finds yourself struggling with the dishonest world of sexual sin, then give us a call. We would be glad to work through the journey of healing with you. You can find out more about our services at www.restoratiopath.org .