Excerpts from Driving Through Painville

Romans 5:3-4 3 And not only that, but we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; 4 and perseverance, character; and character, hope. New King James Version (NKJV)

Romans 5:3-4 teaches us that suffering produces perseverance, perseverance produces character and character produces hope. If we are consistently trying to bypass pain/suffering then we may miss the blessings that follow. The trials and tribulations of life will wound us and cause pain. My father was part of what has been referred to as the greatest generation. He experienced the hardships of growing up during the Great Depression and fighting in World War II. God gave him and many others of this period the ability to persevere. The character that comes through perseverance produces people of integrity and principle. Principles are things that are worth fighting and sometimes dying for. Integrity is the actions that we take when no one is looking. If we consistently seek out the bypass for Painville then we become a people that lack perseverance and character.

I counsel men who learned to avoid and medicate the pain in their life through their sexual behavior. They never learned to walk through Painville. Without this process in place there was no development of character. They lost or never developed integrity and compromised the principles of God. When they begin recovery, they have to learn to deal with the years of pain that their sexual addiction has caused them and others. This process can be very difficult because they have a very low tolerance or threshold for pain because of the years of numbing their pain. The recovery process teaches them to persevere through their pain. In the restoration process, God gives back or restores character.

Joel 2:25 25 “So I will restore to you the years that the swarming locust has eaten, New King James Version (NKJV)


About David Jones

David is a Memphis native and lives with his wife of 25 years and two children. David has a Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of Memphis. He has worked in mental health for over 30 years with adolescents and adults in inpatient, outpatient, and residential settings. For the past 15 years David’s primary focus has been working with men and their spouses in intensive sexual addiction workshops.

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