As the new Director for Restoration Path, I wanted to take a few moments of your time to introduce myself. I would love to have an opportunity to talk with each and every one of you and would be glad to answer any questions you have about me. I was born and raised in the Memphis area in a strong Christian home. I often tell people that my early years were very similar to Mayberry. My grandmother even looked and sometimes acted like Aunt Bea. When I was in the second grade, a significant event occurred that changed my life forever. My mother was severely disabled by numerous strokes that were the result of a brain tumor. The turmoil and the pain that came from that event were overwhelming for all the members of my family. I’m not sure any of us knew how to deal with that pain. My response to that pain was to internalize it because I didn’t want to be a burden to anyone. I appeared as a happy go lucky child that was content in all things. As the seasons passed, my internalized pain could no longer be contained through the approval of being “a good kid”. As my adolescent years approach I begin to various ways to medicate and escape my pain. Some of these medicating actions were socially acceptable such sports, church work and care taking behavior. Other actions were sinful in nature and harmful to me and others. Externally, my appearance would change but internally the pain of a 7 year old boy was still there. Externally, I would go from conservative clean cut “Joe Christian” to long haired, pony tailed biker and back to “Joe Christian”. I was very good at covering up my pain. People have asked when I became a Christian. I came to know the Lord at an early age but I never could fully trust Him.
Another key event happened in my early 20’s. I had been doing the “Joe Christian” image management for a number of years. Everything in my life fell apart. All of my dreams, relationships, career aspirations and finances went away in one day. My response was to become anger at God and I let Him know it. I raged at God all night. I did not realize at the time that I was doing an inventory of my resentments toward God that went all the way back to 7 years old. I felt that God was sitting on the end of my bed just listening. When I was finished, I realized that if I could not trust God with my anger then I could not trust him with my pain. I began to trust God that day. If you notice, I said “began to trust God”. I continue in that journey today. Through that trusting process, he began to show me all the pain in my life that I had medicated and ran from. Some of my pain came from outside sources that I had no control over. Other pains in my life were self inflicted through my own rebellion. No matter the source of the pain, I began to understand that it was my pain that his Son came to bare.
Many people ask me what I do and what service our ministry provides. When I mention something about sexual addiction or sexual sin, often their reaction goes to the worst scenario. Sin is never ever attractive when it is brought into the light. I would never try to minimize the effects, consequences and culpability of the sexual addict’s behavior. For Christian men, however, sexual sin is an external response to an internal problem. In other words, sexual addiction is a “fruit sin and not a root sin”. For sex addicts their internal issue centers around pain. You see the internal issue is the pain of the wounded spirit. The plant of sexual addiction springs forth from the fertile ground of the wounded human spirit. I am thankful for the wounds in my life and God’s healing in each of those areas because it allows me to sit beside the pain of other wounded Christians. Our goal at Restoration Path is to be used by God as conduits of his truth and love so that other wounded spirits might be healed. God is still in the restoration and revival business. Sometimes it begins with the sex addict and other times, it begins with his the spouse. If you know of someone who needs our “heart” services then please review our web site or give us a call.
We thank you for your prayer and financial support. Without you, our ministry could no longer press forward into the fight.
Philippians 3:13-15 13 Brethren, I do not count myself to have apprehended; but one thing I do, forgetting those things which are behind and reaching forward to those things which are ahead, 14 I press toward the goal for the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus. (NKJV)