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Learning from failures

Genesis 14:11-1211 Then they took all the goods of Sodom and Gomorrah, and all their provisions, and went their way. 12 They also took Lot, Abram’s brother’s son who dwelt in Sodom, and his goods, and departed. (NKJV) Living in an exceedingly wicked place cost Lot everything but his life. You would think if you lost everything you […]

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No strings attached love

Romans 12:9 Let love be without hypocrisy. Abhor what is evil. Cling to what is good. (NKJV) We receive a repeated message from a telemarketer that informs us that they are waiting to deliver our free “I’ve fallen and I can’t get up” monitor. The guy on the message sounds like your best buddy and genuinely concerned for our […]

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Where do you face your tent?

Genesis 13:11-13 11 Then Lot chose for himself all the plain of Jordan, and Lot journeyed east. And they separated from each other.12 Abram dwelt in the land of Canaan, and Lot dwelt in the cities of the plain and pitched his tent even as far as Sodom. 13 But the men of Sodom were exceedingly wicked and sinful against the Lord. (NKJV) Lot […]

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Repeated burns

You see pain doesn’t produce change. It only gets our attention. The pain only informs us “Hey, what you are doing is not working. You are in rebellion to God and rebellion causes pain. The goal is not to figure out a way to avoid pain. The goal is obedience and to submit our rebellious nature to the Lord.

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THE JOURNEY OF AN ANONYMOUS PASTOR – Part 4

Have you ever said you’re sorry to someone or to God only because you got caught or because it benefited you to do so? I know that I have. I am not a stranger to false repentance. False repentance is saying, “I’m sorry for ________,” when in reality you plan to do it again when […]

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THE JOURNEY OF AN ANONYMOUS PASTOR – Part 3

I was riding my four-wheeler on a warm summer day down some dirt roads when I found the magazine. I found it at the Circle, a local spot for beer parties; it was just a clearing in the woods off a gravel road. I liked going there because I got to bust the beer bottles […]

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THE JOURNEY OF AN ANONYMOUS PASTOR – Part 2

Restoration Path ministers to Christian men and women trapped in sexual and relational sin. Sexual sin does not respect boundaries. It assaults even our spiritual leaders. In the next few weeks you will be reading the real life story of a pastor who is in the fight to defeat this very personal affliction. The content […]

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The LeBron Lesson

In sports, you are taught to have a short term memory regarding your mistakes and failures. If you keep looking back at those mistakes then you can’t see the challenges in front of you. The same is true regarding our sin. When we keep looking back at our failures and sins then we stop moving forward and begin to live in regret. Paul commanded the church at Philippi to press forward. …

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Excerpts from: 10 Truths Wives Need to Know

The wife of a sexual addict is often the most misunderstood victim that exists in the church today. Her world is filled with a sense of absolute betrayal. She feels betrayed by the man she committed her life to and often feels betrayed by God. Her world is one of varied emotions. They range from total despair to rage in a matter of moments. Her world is often consumed by guilt, shame and embarrassment. She often blames herself for not seeing “the warning signs” of her husband’s secret sin. Most often she feels alone in her struggle and afraid to share her plight because of how others may respond or how it will affect her children and the family’s reputation in the church.

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Excerpts from: Top Ten Lies Sex Addicts Tell Themselves

Everyone’s relationship with their sexual sin is unique and different. In the case of the sex addict he will develop unique lies and distortions that will protect this secret relationship. This protection occurs because of 2 primary reasons. He likes his sexual sin and he lacks the ability to deal with the reality of his sin. He likes his sexual sin because it feels good and it meets some core needs. When a sexual addict sees an attractive person and that person smiles at him, his first thought is “that person wants to have sex with me.” With this thought and look, the addict’s brain releases chemicals that make him feel good. Each time he takes that intoxicating look, his relationship with his sexual sin is reinforced. Something that feels this good must be protected. At the same time, the addict is subtly addressing the core need of being wanted. Most sexual addicts carry around core need deficiencies. The longer he carries these deficiencies, the more desperate he will become to fill this void. In a lot of cases the addict is not aware of these voids because he never had them met to begin with. Let’s go back to the original thought. “That attractive person wants to have sex with me.” Each time the addict takes in this message he is attempting to fill the need of being wanted. Originally, this need was non-sexual but became sexualized through the constant input of sexual thoughts and images. Because these thoughts address some very important needs, he must protect his sexual sin.

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