Abuse

Abuse:
By David Jones, Executive Director Restoration Path Ministries

Star NFL running back Adrian Peterson will not be suiting up for the Minnesota Vikings for an undisclosed period of time. Former Super Bowl champion Ray Rice may never work in the NFL again. Neither of these star athletes has acquired a career ending injury nor has their effectiveness declined on the field. They are both accused of domestic abuse. Peterson is accused of abusing one, possibly two, of his children while Rice was videoed striking his then fiancé. You would be hard pressed to find someone who would defend the abusing of children and women and both of these star running backs have expressed remorse for their abusive acts. Cries of outrage have stirred across the country from advocacy groups, sports talk shows, political leaders and social media.
There is a more subtle form of abuse of women and children that occurs everyday and receives little to no attention. As a matter of fact it is encouraged, promoted and millions of dollars are spent marketing it. This insidious and sly form of abuse is even protected under the covering of freedom of speech and expression. This abuse has a name and it is called pornography. Before you dismiss me as a right-wing-ultra-conservative-narrow minded-Christian, hear me out.
1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV) (Love)..does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;
Pornography promotes lust and objectifying the images that are taken in. Lust is about taking and using those images to be utilized for individual gratification. 1 Corinthians 13 is often referred to as the Love chapter as it defines Godly Love and how it should be demonstrated in our interactions with each other. Verse 5 tells us that Love does not seek its own. It other words it is not selfish and self-serving. Continual use of porn promotes the idea of self-gratification, self-absorption and the using of others to accomplish this. Take this belief system into marriage and parenting and see what happens. At a minimum, continued porn use abuses and destroys the very foundation of what is intended to be loving and selfless relationships.
Children that are exposed to pornography not only have the notion of self absorption promoted but it also effects and damages the development and maturing of their fragile brains. A human’s brain is not fully developed until around the age of 21 and in some cases later than this. When this underdeveloped brain is exposed to pornography it abuses, damages and delays the maturation process. Maybe that is why we have so many self-absorbed, immature adults running around today.

I wonder what would happen if we had as much outrage about the abusive effects of pornography as we did for the Peterson and Rice abuse allegations? Maybe we would say “Enough is enough” and turn off some of the sexually explicit TV shows, movies and music. Pornography will never go away but we can stand up to it and stop its abuse of our children and the definition of true Godly Love.
If you or someone you know has a loved one being abused by the effects of pornography, then please give us a call at (877-320-5217 or visit our website at www.restoratiopath.org.

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About David Jones

David is a Memphis native and lives with his wife of 25 years and two children. David has a Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of Memphis. He has worked in mental health for over 30 years with adolescents and adults in inpatient, outpatient, and residential settings. For the past 15 years David’s primary focus has been working with men and their spouses in intensive sexual addiction workshops.

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