It would seem that every day we are confronted with new accounts of horrific sexual abuse of children and women. The Catholic Church is reeling from the latest reports of years of sexual abuse allegations and the apparent attempts to cover up these assaults. Larry Nassar abused scores of young girls under the guise of providing medical treatment and is now a convicted serial child molester. Powerful Hollywood celebrates have been exposed through the Me Too movement for their long history of abusing females. The list goes on and on and the cries of outrage have stirred across the country from advocacy groups, talk shows, political leaders and social media.

There is a subtler form of abuse of women and children that occurs everyday and receives little to no attention. As a matter of fact, it is encouraged, promoted and millions of dollars are spent marketing it. This insidious and sly form of abuse is even protected under the covering of freedom of speech and expression. This abuse has a name and it is called pornography. Before you dismiss me as a right-wing-ultra-conservative-narrow minded-Christian, hear me out.

1 Corinthians 13:5 (NKJV) (Love).. does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil;

Pornography promotes lust and objectifying the images that are taken in. Lust is about taking and using those images to be utilized for individual gratification. 1 Corinthians 13 is often referred to as the Love chapter as it defines Godly Love and how it should be demonstrated in our interactions with each other. Verse 5 tells us that Love does not seek its own. It other words it is not selfish and self-serving. Continual use of porn promotes the idea of self-gratification, self-absorption and the using of others to accomplish this. Take this belief system into marriage and parenting and see what happens. At a minimum, continued porn use abuses and destroys the very foundation of what is intended to be loving and selfless relationships.

Children that are exposed to pornography not only have the notion of self absorption promoted but it also effects and damages the development and maturing of their fragile brains. A human’s brain is not fully developed until around the age of 21 and in some cases later than this. When this underdeveloped brain is exposed to pornography it abuses, damages and delays the maturation process. Maybe that is why we have so many self-absorbed, immature adults running around today.

I wonder what would happen if we had as much outrage about the abusive effects of pornography as we did for the high profile sexual abusers? Maybe we would say “Enough is enough” and turn off some of the sexually explicit TV shows, movies and music. Pornography will never go away but we can stand up to it and stop its abuse of our children and the definition of true Godly Love.

By David Jones, Executive Director Restoration Path Ministries rpathdavid@gmail.com


If you or someone you know has a loved one being abused by the effects of pornography, then please give us a call at 877-320-5217 or visit our website at www.restoratiopath.org.


About David Jones

David Jones is the Executive Director for Restoration Path Ministries. David is a Memphis TN area native and lives with his wife of over 32 years and has two adult children. He is a long-standing deacon, ordained elder and Sunday school teacher. David has a Master’s Degree in Counseling from the University of Memphis. Restoration Path is founded on David’s experiences and teachings. David has over 35 years of counseling, mental health, and ministry experience. In 1998, he began providing intensive workshops for Christian men struggling with sexual addiction. His work has also included workshops for the wives and families of sexual addicts. He has also facilitated numerous training institutes. The teachings that are presented through the ministry workshops and intensives are the result of proven and biblically based techniques. He is also the author of 4 other books Goldfish Devotionals, The Blessing of the Thorn, 10 Truths Wives Need to Know, and The Top 10 Lies Sex Addicts Tell Themselves. He is the author and creator of the 4 and 3-day Restoration Path intensive sexual addiction workshops and workbooks. He is the designer, author, and creator of the Restoration Path video workshops and workbooks for male sexual addicts as well as the video workshop for the wives of addicts. All of David’s books and material can be ordered from the ministry website.

One Response to “Abuse”

  1. Ronald August 24, 2018 4:05 pm #

    Countless times I have heard the same or a similar story. “I found my (father, uncle”), fill on the blank, stash of porn and now they struggle with their relationships and themselves. This is almost always at a young age where their bodies respond chemically, sending them into a body numbing euphoric high but their mind has no concept of how to handle this or the dangers thereof. They have been given a drag racer with no brakes and they have never seen or experienced a high speed wreck where great damage is done.

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